This site was created in loving memory of Jay Heitzner. A wonderful Son, Brother, Uncle and Friend,but most of all a wonderful man. Jay had a wonderful smile and laugh that could light up the room. He is in our thoughts everyday and will be cherished forever by all those who loved him.
I created this site as a way for people to remember Jay, see pictures and post messages about him. Please feel free to post your favorite memories or just thoughts of Jay.
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My memories of Jay are from many many years ago, and they are of a fun, loving man who truly loved his family. I am grateful that I had at least that one time to meet Jay through being great friends with his sister Lori. My prayers go to the Heitzner family.
Love Brad Kessler
Always smiling...Life of the party...Younger cousin's best friend...Loved his family...Full of energy...Could out dance his mother!!
Jay is certainly missed by all.
Always in our thoughts,
Cousins Michael, Cheryl, Gabrielle, and Caleb Kasner
We have great memories of Jay and feel blessed to have spent time with him here in Denver and El Paso. We hope he's hangin' with Bobbie, Muriel, Mendy and Adrian and getting an earful! We will never forget his sweet face and beautiful smile.
Jay, rest in peace.
Cousins, Helene, David, Ben, Elliot
What a great memorial. I think of the Heitzner's and Fishman's everyday. Know that the Harper's pray for peace and comfort and that Jay's presence will be remembered and felt with joy and laughter!
I knew Jay since he was a toddler. Always a smile. Always a laugh. The sweetest, most adorable kid, the nicest, most compassionate young man. He will be in my heart forever. Penny Schatten
Jay was a bad influence on my grandma, giving her cigarettes and champagne, and I loved him for it. He had the most kick ass sense of humor. Great man, great cousin.
Kimberly Garnick
We have the fondest memories of Jay. From the first time we met him, we loved his contagious laugh and smile! My family will miss him dearly and feel honored that we got to spend some time with him. He always brought a smile and laughter to our face. May you rest in peace Jay. We love you,
cousins, Maxine, Danny, Elyce, Kaylee and Jacob
I just remember coming home from school, and there lying on the living room floor was Michael and Jay, sleeping. They didn't need a bed, i guess. Who knew years later Jay would be slipping my mother cigarettes at family functions. Very easy to talk to, always a laugh, family functions will never be the same. I miss you, Jay. Love, Janie
Jay was Jay and to anyone who new him knows we wouldn't have him any other way. His bright smile and the looks that he made, the kind and caring person he was.
Yes Jay was Jay, and he will be remembered in our HEARTS and in the memories he leaves to us.
Ron
Wow...what can we say? Jay was an AMAZING guy, with a smile that always brightened any room, and, of course, our hearts. I always looked forward to hanging out with Jay, knowing his stories would make me laugh (and boy did he have stories to tell!!) :o) He loved his family very much, and we were all blessed to have known him and that he was a part of our lives. Rest in peace Jay. You will never be forgotten. We know that the rays of sunlight that shine down on us are DEFINITELY from your smile, as you look down on us! Keep smiling! We'll see you again one day....
Love,
Arlette (& family)
Your brother looked like he was soo much fun. Your site is a beautiful tribute to him! You are a wonderful sister. May he rest in peace.
Love, Alyson Scarabaggio
We will always remember Jay's smile and kind words for everyone. He was a wonderful person to be near. We will never forget his smile.
We will miss him.
The Michaels
I was very lucky not only to have a GREAT brother in law, but also a GREAT friend,
Jay and I could talk about anything- from kids to life to bras...anything.
and Jay would really listen, you could have a really long conversation with him about nothing,plus he would usually be on my side.
We used to always joke and say that my kids were his, it was great when everyone always thought they resembled him, now it is bitter sweet when we look at them and really see a part of Jay in them.
I hope he knows how much we all miss him, how much we wish he was here, how my son Jake always kisses his picture and says how he misses his Uncle Jay,
how we cannot talk enough about his laugh..
Thinking of you on your birthday , and always!!!!!!!!!!!! Love you.
My memories of Jay are of him always helping out when people needed him and the kind of person and brother ,son,and friend when you just wanted someone to talk to. There is not a day that goes by that i do not think about him and his laugh or him calling me up and saying hello "What's up jerk off" I know Muriel,Bobbie(Rose),Mendi,Murray.Maxie,
Adrian
Betty,Aaron are all looking after him.
I Will Tell My Children All The Wonderful Stories About Their Uncle Jay, so they will never forget him.
I want to wish you a happy birthday and tell you that I miss you terribly and Jake asks for you all the time.
I looked up to you more than people think you looked up to me. I know we always joked but we never really said alot to one another, but if I could have one more time to see you I would tell you.....
"I LOVE YOU" !!!!
MISS YOU BRO "WONDERWOMAN" "TEXAS LIPS" "CURLY JAY"
You are missed immensely. You felt like there was a void in your life. Now you left one in so many of ours. The ease of our relationship is one that I will always cherish. A great friend you were. Happy Birthday Jay. Show 'em up there that a white boy can boogie. I love you, I miss you.
-"Brother Seth"
Happy Birthday brother Jay!! We miss you and love you very much!! We will laugh out loud today in honor of you. Your presence is felt everyday.
With all of my love,
your sister Lori
I will always remember Jay by his smile and his huge heart and how he brought laughter to the room every time I saw him. He was a great person, and the memories I have, I will cherish!
So here's to you Jay... Happy Birthday!
Always with Love
Lisa
Dearest Jay:
We all miss you very much. Your smile, your laughter, your kindness and your ability to tackle anything that we all needed help with. But most of all, I miss not seeing you, making you crazy, nagging you. and shopping for all your shirts and ties and trying to help you color coordinate them.
I miss not being with you in the car and you driving and me sitting in the back like Driving Miss Daisy. My trips to Buffalo, florida and anywhere's else will never be the same. It was you who brought me to Penn station and it was you who was there to pick me up and have dinner with me. I'm missing you on the weekends when I made breakfast for you and had you around my apartment. Cindy is also missing you so much...
Jay, I love you so very much, and will always love you. Life is hard going on without you. But, Lori, Michael, Allison and Seth, we are all trying. The kids especially Jake and Sabrina are missing you a whole lot. Please rest in peace and know that Ithink about you everyday and wish you were here with me. I love you Jay!!!!
Jay, remembering you with fond memories and much love on your birthday. Please give a big hug to the Kasner and Fahn family members for me.
Wishing you much peace,
Cousin Michael
Happy Birthday Jay!!! I love you and miss you.
Nikki
I didn't get to know Jay that well since he was much younger than I was and he moved away for much of my childhood. However, I did get to know the rest of his family Lori, Seth, Allison, Shelly and especially Mike. You could see the love they have for him. He feels the love and that's what matters most.
We should all remember to cherish the moments we have together and make them count. It's never too late to do or say the things in your heart.
Peace to all and Happy Birthday Jay!!!
Stan
Shelley and family, there are no words to express to you my heartfelt empathy. The last time I spoke to Jay he was laughing. I was in your room, Lori, trying to relax a little bit. All of a sudden, Jay opened the bottom lock which I didn't even know anyone had a key to it. So, I screamed out who's there? Laughter, repeated by it's me Jay. I told him I would be right out and he told me to take my time. His personality will never be forgotten by me. I hope he is being a "gitta bader" (big mouth) for all of us that he left behind.
Great memorial Lori. I'll never forget you brother. Brent
On many occasions we gave Jay a lift to and from Jersey. It was a fun ride because all he did was laugh in the car. Whatever we talked about he laughed and we laughed. He was a very sweet and sincere person. Very pleasant to be around. We will miss him.
The Rabinowitz's
Not sure why but have been thinking of you all today Lori, Seth, Mike, Allison & Shelley. Before Noah goes down for a nap we say prayers and thank God for our blessings! Today we prayed that your families would continue to feel supernatural peace and comfort while you continue to grieve. (Not exactly Noah's words) but close with some coaxing from Mommy. I enjoy reading everyone's comments about how much fun Jay was since my memories of him go back almost 20 years.
Love Cara, Phillip & Noah Harper
I am so glad I had the chance to meet Jay. My memories of him will always be the way he brought happiness into a room with his beautiful big smile. He will be missed.
Cortney
I must have gone on this site a million times since you started it, Lori. I never felt like any words I could write would do justice. Unfortunately, I am of one of the people who did not know Jay that well. And what do you say about someone you don't really know. What you can say is how clear it is to an "outsider" how much you were loved. I always felt like I knew you because of the loving and genuine way Lori always talked about you. Listening to Mike and everyone at the memorial service made it so clear how much fun you were, how cherished a son, brother, uncle and friend you were, and how much you will be missed. Your beautiful family will never let you die, Jay...you live on in all of their hearts.
Love and Hugs to all of you,
Jill Berlin
just a quick note, bc I was thinking of Jay and do not want to ever forget to talk about him, write about him, and just not to forget.
My son Jake still asks every once in a while- and says how much he misses him, as do we.
and it hurts us the most, bc I dont know if he realized how much my neices and kids loved him and what a great uncle he was/IS!!
I miss you like crazy everyday. There is not a day goes by that I dont think about you and look at pictures of you. You are missed everyday by everyone and I love you sooo much. We have had some wonderful memories together. What am I going to do at family events without you? Who am I going to go outside with and smoke with? We could always talk about anything. I will always have our memories. I wish I could run to you now and hug you and tell you how much I love you.
I miss Jay every day. I think about him every day. I mention him at least once every day.
My gut response was "Are you sure?" - but you taught and showed me my arrogance in my silly life- so I only said "I am so sorry." A definitive answer - I feared - so I didn't ask - when I learned - hours or days - it will be my lifetime, that I carry that first moment of the agony, grief, guilt, fear. I swore for a while if you had told me at that moment, I would have held your hand just so I could be sure you weren't scared.
- it is a year and 3/4 - 21 months - 640 odd days later - and I am still dumbfounded that the world still spins without you.
Now I realize, typically, silly, obvious, and ironic that it is only, because it has to.
All my love always, always
Just thinking of Jay this morning.
I was just sitting here thinking about Jay, hmm 2 years. So I decided to google his name and see what I would find. Just to see a picture of him, with his big smile. I'm so glad to see this site. It made me smile looking at his picture and all the wonderful words. Jay was my supervisior once, and he was the best supervisior ever! I often think about him and his family and wish everyone well. My thoughts are with you!
For the 3rd year Christmas was not the same for me without watching "Love Actually" over and over with Jay on the phone....not the same without us blasting Holiday music on our car radios to leave on each other's voice mail....not the same without my partner in crime...I lit the candles for him again and always will.....
Happy birthday Jay!!! I love youand miss you...
Nikki
I was on vacation this past week and talking to my family and husband about my upcoming trip to NYC in August. My husband says, "You should call Jay and get together with him!" I thought this was a fantastic idea! So, I'm driving home from vacation and looking him up on Facebook and I can't find him. I do a search on google and I find this site. I hesitate, thinking, "No, this can't possibly be MY Jay," and then I hold my breath until I see the first picture load and I realize, "This IS my Jay."
Jay and I were great friends at Pitt. We were partners for the sexual assault awareness program presentations and our friendship grew from there. Jay was always so wonderful in those presentations and his smile and laugh were infectious! I enjoyed every moment I spent with him, most notably my 21st birthday where we went to the South Side and went to a place called Dee's I think with Jay and a bunch of his awesome friends.
After school, we lost touch for a while and then got back in touch after I had my first daughter. We exchanged some emails and a phone call or two. We talked about getting together either in PA or in NYC. I was so happy that we got back in touch again...
I am so sorry we lost touch again and I am absolutely devastated that I am only now finding out that Jay is no longer here. To his family, my thoughts and deepest sympathy are with you. I feel as if I've been punched in the gut tonight, seeing this for the first time. I absolutely can not believe he is gone. Jay was a wonderful soul and a great friend. He was one of those people who, even after not being in touch for years, would make you easily fall into that familiar comfortable friendship all over again.
Oh Jay, I was so looking forward to having lunch with you this summer... I will never forget you. Over the years, you've frequently been in my thoughts and I've told so many people about you. I am so very sorry you are gone.
Love,
Jessica
Yo Jay been thinking about you every day that passes, wish you were here to watch your nephew andniece's grow up. Jake asks about you all the time.
Miss You and Love you. Till we meet again.
The Monday after Thanksgiving is the worst day....miss my friend, miss marveling at the beauty of each full moon with him, miss our excitement at hearing the first holiday music of the season, miss watching "Love Actually"...miss more things and moments than can be expressed....but smile whenever I think of him
Jay, I remember you so fondly as my dear friend in elementary school.We both had different names then with a shared soul and secrets. I only hoped we could have reconnected as adults; as our most authentic selves.Our idols remain the same, as if time stood still. Your memory will remain in my heart FOREVER!
My love to your family,
Alexandra
Jay what a thrill I met Wonder Woman! I remember how we played and argued over who would wear the tin foil bracelets and tiara we made in your apt.I think about you NOW so often I regreat that Its taken me so many years to be comfortble in my own skin to find my self and how I wish that I would have reconnected with YOU!! I regreat and feel so sad that my life kept me from those who I felt so familiar with in my spirit. My darling, Rebecca and I speak of you when we talk as if no time has passed. I like to think that you keep me strong as I sometimes struggle, fumble and get scared.I have so many questions ..I hope you have peace.I hope I find peace someday.When I feel the warmth of the sun on my face I know you are with me. Thanks you, my friend for a lifetime of memories.all my love Alexandra
Thoughts and memories of Jay are flooding my mind today. Time passes but the love doesn't alter. Still miss him...always will.
Happy Birthday Jay. You are missed more and more each day. We sent some balloons up to you with messages on them. We feel your love today and thanks for looking out for us down here. Love and miss you.
Thinking of Jay today. Love him and miss him. Always.
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